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So welcome to episode three of season three. If you just joined, this is Maria at Mariana the Arkin on Instagram. And I’m joined by the ever so lovely Robin of a Tired Witch on Instagram. Hello.
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I just want to thank everyone who wrote us reviews for our giveaway. Yes, it was really amazing. We got so many reviews and they were also it was just really nice to read. And like yes, I understand that people were writing reviews because of the giveaway, but the people who did write them, I at least felt like what you were saying was genuine. Maybe you were gassing us up. I don’t know. Especially the one that was like maria’s voice is really calming. It’s like, you’re very smart. Speak like a cheerleader. If anybody speaks like a cheerleader, it’s me. I’m from fucking the Bay Area in California. Since
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I am an artsy kid, actually, I’m not like other girls.
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Yeah. Thank you guys so much. And I will say, before we get into this episode, leaving things like reviews for us, like things like giveaways aside, sincerely helps the podcast in such a major way. We really appreciate it. And if you are willing to take the time to leave one, we will kiss you metaphorically on the lips. Because as I always say on here, consensual hugs.
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Yes. And don’t forget that Spotify also does mount reviews. So, yes, think of us reviews. We love you.
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If this is your first week listening to us, every single week, we talk about upcoming lunar phases and how we can use them magically. That being said, the nearest one to this date to the date at which this is launched. I don’t know why I said it like that. I liked it. I dig it through the whole podcast in that voice. Like some sort of old fashioned newscaster. Yeah, or audiobook. Oh, my goodness. All right. Sorry. Anyway, back on track. It is going to be on March 2. It is the new moon in PISCES and new moons in general. We’ve talked about this a bajillion times. At this point, they deal with fresh starts. They also deal with closures and rebirth. Of that, it is very similar to the death card. One chapter ends, a new one begins. Now, with that being said, the Newman and PISCES therefore makes this very much so. Like the death card, it’s a bit of an emotional moon. And as things come to a close, you might find yourself feeling a little bit sensitive towards that and working on healing magic for yourself to kind of come to terms with this new closure that’s going on for you. This isn’t to say, of course, that you’re going to have some traumatic events, but if you are working on closure in general, this is a new moon that is really, really good with pairing on Healing magic for that. PISCES moons are also very good for creativity and intuition. So you might find yourself looking towards your, I was going to say tarot cards, but any form of divination that you practice to get a deeper insight to yourself and your practice and you might be focusing on magic to blossom creativity. I don’t know why, but right now I’m feeling very tarot card heavy. It’s the death card moon. You can hone in energies of the Empress or of the High priestess. This new moon, the High priestess coincidentally also works or is the card that is associated with PISCES. So, I don’t know. I’m feeling very tarot heavy right now. Don’t ask me why, don’t worry about it.
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If you’re somebody who uses the new moons to set intention or manifestation type goals, the PISCES new moon would be a really good time to set intentions that are focused on real big creative boosts in your life or chasing your dreams, whatever those dreams might be. Yeah, so it’s pretty big and blossoming new moon, I guess you could say. PISCES is such a dreamy sign. Like it’s great for spell work, it’s great for lucid dreaming divination, especially lucid dreaming. But this is also the new moon, I think setting the intentions to maybe have lucid more lucid dreaming and stuff like that. Sure, yeah, great. Maybe make a little bag for yourself to lucid dream with and as you use it through until the full moon, I would also go ahead and charge it under the full moon too, so you can keep it going. Yeah, I think it’s a really good idea. Fancy. It’s a big moon, guys. It’s real big and there’s a lot of big fields that come with it. So I guess my closing statement on this is that if you are feeling extra emotional, this new moon, it is okay to step back and say, you know what, I’m actually not in the headspace to do magic or spell work right now because I am in the fields and you should just focus on that. Yeah, I’m trying to see what the dark moon is going to be. Oh, and the dark moon is going to be in PISCES too. Unemotional times for everybody. I think that’ll work. We’ll definitely be pivotal then. So I take care of yourself. I did not say that the darkman was going to be in PISCES because I didn’t want to scare anyone. And yet here you are. Very important. I’m going to bring it up. Fair enough. Fair enough.
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So as we say, every podcast, if you just started listening to us, every podcast we talk about a Tarot card. We go over the universal meanings and then our own interpretations of the cards. This is just to help others form their own opinions. Just let it for like beginners or even those who have been practicing for a while, expand their views on other meetings. So this week we are talking about the Empress. On this card we see our goddess, the Empress lounging on a cushioned chair. She is wearing a flowing gown, decorated roses. It gives the impression that she may or may not be pregnant. She wears a crown of stars and holds a golden scepter in her right hand. We see the symbol for femininity near her, and she is surrounded by a field of wheat, a flowing stream and a trees behind her. The universal keywords to this card are fertility, growth and abundance. So I actually view this card kind of differently than most readers, and I’m sure Robin will view it definitely different as well. So for me, the Empress and the Queen of Pence are very similar beings. Both are extremely nurturing and motherly figures. But I do feel as though the Empress is more selfish of a figure. And I want to stress that most of the time, not in a bad way, like we all have to be selfish sometimes. But why I think that way is that she’s the Empress. She gets what she wants. She prioritizes the causes that she believes in. And when she believes in you, she gives you everything you need to thrive. She is a creature of luxury. She pampers herself and she surrounds herself with things that bring her comfort. She is also a central being who loves her body and sex. So with all that in mind, she comes into reading upright in a positive spot. It shows that, like, someone is taking up space for themselves. They are doing the self care. They are saying, I want that and I’m going to get it because I deserve it. They may be also helping others manifest their dreams, and they may even be exploring their sensuality. She’s kind of like Angelina Jolie. She’s an amazing mother, but she is also a central creature. She is in a spot in life where her privilege where she has the privilege to help out a lot with amazing causes, but she also still does things that she’s passionate about, like acting. Now, sometimes this card falls in a negative spot, and when she is upright, it shows that she is enjoying all those things in excess. It’s kind of like what people thought of what Marie Antoinette was doing. Living lavishly, focusing too much on self care. And outside of the Marie Antoinette comparison, it can also show sometimes smothering those we care about because we want them to thrive and we need to kind of like, back off and give them distance. How do you view this card, Robin? You know what? I actually view this very similarly similarly to you. Hear me out. So you have the Emperor card, right? I view the Emperor and the Empress to be the mom and dad of the tarot deck. And I say that in the respect of stereotypical nuclear home kind of ideals. Right? So you have, like, vampire who is the dad, he is the boss. Macho rules and order and blah, blah, blah. Right. But in an actual nuclear household, at least. I mean, I’m Latino, so maybe this is a different experience for other people. At least in my household, dad gets to sit and pretend that he’s in charge and has his rules in order. But mom is actually in charge. She is the matriarch of the household. She is the one who makes sure that everyone is taken care of, including herself. It’s her vision, her creativity, her insight, her ideas, everything. Right. But ultimately, she is in charge and she is guiding everyone to the end destination, whatever that might be. So I very much see this in a similar light to you, just for slightly different reasons. She is nurturing all these things. She is the bringer of life. She is the creative, the nurturer, the growth, the fertilizer of our ideas. But she does all that because she is subtly in charge. And by that I mean the brains behind the face, if you will. Yeah. She needs to believe in you. Like, believe in your cause to do things for you. Exactly. You better have a damn good reason. This is just, in my opinion, a really good example of how I know I’ve just started that series on Tik Tok, on Instagram reels, whatever. That’s like my unhinged UPG with Tarot. But this is a really good example of that, of how our personal life experience kind of shaped this standard definition of something. To me, a mom, because of my background, has slightly different maybe meaning to somebody else’s idea of a mother. Yeah, I love that. Thanks. I love your brain. Big dude. Thanks a lot. I’m really smart, actually.
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So today we’re going to talk about a very requested topic. When I say very requested, I think we’ve been asked at least like, three or four times a month since I announced that I was pregnant, right? Yeah. And it was a lot in our giveaway post, too, because we asked everyone if they had any things they wanted us to talk about, and this was like, a lot of different comments, I guess. The cat is out of the bag and we’re both mills. It’s a listen, guys, it’s a burden somebody has to bear, and we’re going to be the ones to do it. We’re more than happy.
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So sorry. We are the Empress Car. Really? Did you guys notice that we picked that one on purpose? So today we’re going to talk about being a witch and a parent, incorporating our witch links with magic and kind of what that looks like. It’s been incredibly requested by people. Yeah.
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Excited. Yeah. It’s one of those things that I know that both of us, for the most part, keep our children off of social media, but we also both are not shy about the fact that we are mothers. And we’re both also at two very different points of being mothers. My baby is less than a year old, and Maria’s baby is basically on their way to getting your driver’s license. It’s fucked up. Hey, they’re just about to turn in the teenagers. They’re basically already getting a totally psychotic
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why was I not told?
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Sorry.
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Yeah, so we thought that it would be a pretty cool perspective considering the fact that we both are at two totally different stages of being moms. Moms. Yes. So that being said, Maria, the first big question everybody wants to know is how do you have the time? How do you got the energy to do magic at all? Please explain. Okay, so I’ll admit, like, the first year of my Witchling life, I did almost nothing. I felt like I was on a robot, on autopilot. My wife was in a very demanding job, and I was like the sole parent for most of the time. It was rough, but after that, it did get easier. I feel like the smaller they are, the more you have to reprioritize things. Yes, make time for yourself, magically or otherwise, but you’re definitely not at the point you were preparing. It is just a reality we all have to face because you can’t be doing what you used to do, and that’s okay. And I think in that instance, I think that if you are in a partnership, having a supportive one is key. You should feel supported always, like magically or not. But if you need time and your partner isn’t doing anything or it’s your time to chill, you should be able to count on your partner to help if you can’t. It might be some time to have those tough discussions and shadow work, if you will. And if you’re like a single mother or also have a partner in a demanding job, I recommend trying to embrace the chaos. Make sure the little ones are safe, turn on some music, dance around with them, do your spell work. Create a fun, like a fun magical atmosphere. That is key. I think so many witches feel like they have to be alone or the mood has to be just right. The candles are like it’s quiet, you can hear the crickets, but that just is not a reality for a lot of trees a bit and just trying to force that will actually lead you to burnout. And if you think about it, like in old pagan times involving family and being rambunctious and stuff like that, while they were doing magic and stuff like that was the norm. Like so if you are interrupted, I promise you won’t interrupt your spell. Like the spirit, like, spirit knows how hard parents work. They understand. Now, if you have teenagers or tweens who listen to music or play, video games are just generally loud. I recommend investing in a good pair of noise canceling headphones because I wear mine a lot. I not only have like a Witchling who loves music and video games, but I also have two really loud dogs who like to bark at Shadows. So having noise canceling headphones has been a lifesaver for what I’m doing magic. But yeah, so for myself, I do most of my magic work while the witch hung is at school or doing something on their own or at night when they are asleep. Yeah, I’m going to mirror some of the things that you said. Noise counseling headphones and white noise specifically. Twelve out of ten. Greatest investment that has ever happened to me. When it comes to doing magic of any kind, I’m in a really privileged position where both my partner and I work from home. So our parenting duties is pretty close to 50 50. I mean, there are days where I have our baby all day long and my husband’s not around, but then there’s days where he pretty much has our baby all day long and I’m not around because I’m working. And I have found in my routine that I wake up quite early pretty much when the sun comes up. So 630 ish and I’ll nurse our baby and then put the baby to bed with their dad. And I take the mornings for myself. So I do any kind of like prayer, spellwork, meditation, et cetera, in that first hour when they’re both sleeping. Now, I know that’s not going to work for everybody because quite frankly, some of you don’t wake up early and there’s nothing wrong with that. So the alternative when your kid goes to sleep, you still have that same space. And even if you’re not thinking about magic per se, but just being a new mom, new parent, taking time for yourself is super fucking important. Like, being a parent is really hard. Being a parent with a baby is really hard. I’m in a situation where my partner is just as involved as I am and I’m burnt out all the time. I can’t even imagine stay at home parents, single parents, et cetera. There is nothing wrong with saying, hey, I need a little break. That doesn’t make you a bad parent. It just means you’re a human being who can’t constantly be going. So I think magic side taking time for yourself, even if that time for yourself is 15 minutes, is super important to take it when you can. I know taking it whenever you want is not realistic for everybody, but where you can and when you can take it and if you can use that for magic, great. It’s good. I also think just having kind of a more simplified ritual for yourself, daily ritual, meaning not ritual magic, but just like the rituals that we do when doing magic, it can get more small scale light and offering candle in the morning at your altar and have a little quiet prayer to yourself, a little quiet intention for 1015 seconds and move on. I know we’ve talked about this before with like ritual work and magic having to be this grand elaborate thing. And I think that ceremonial orders, even wicked, ultimately is an offshoot of ceremonial magic, right? And it is such a prevalent part of our community that it becomes really easy to find yourself falling into the trap that you have to be doing this ceremonial magic. And that is not everyone’s practice. And that’s okay. Honestly, I think motherhood is what’s made me accept the practicality and simplicity of household home and hearth magic. I know that that’s what I thrive on. And if I try to make myself be anything more than that, I end up like, it’s just not my thing. I can’t do it. I know that a lot. There’s been really large discussion and discourse around the idea of armchair magicians, and I think that discourse is really valid. But an armchair magician, in my opinion, is somebody who does a lot of talking and no practicing whatsoever. And practicing can vary to a little bit, to a lot. You know what I mean? It’s a huge sliding scale. And even if you’re only doing a TNC, we can see a little bit, right, that’s still doing something. And you should give yourself some kudos where kudos are due. And I think that the type of people that I don’t know get their jollies off constantly ripping up other people and their practices are the most miserable fucking asshole around. Like, sorry, but go get laid. Don’t you have something else to do? Literally. Especially if all they’re saying is online. No one’s practice is 100% online or even, like, 10% online. I know, exactly. I don’t know. All I got to say is if I ever get to the point where I am, like, middle aged and arguing with people on the Internet, like, put a fucking bullet in my brain, I am done. Cry for help. Put me down like Old Yeller. Speaking of brain, how do you deal with mom brain? I don’t. That’s what everybody asks this question. They’re like, how do you deal with it? I don’t. I don’t have a solution. I wish I had one. Since giving birth when I was a kid, I had a stammer that would show up from time to time. I didn’t have a stutter so bad that, you know what I mean? I needed speech therapy or anything like that. But I do have a stammer. That happens sometimes. I’ll just get stuck on a word, and I can’t move past it. Since birth, my stammer has returned. And I’m really grateful. I’m really grateful because it’s never come out here on the podcast. And my husband and I were actually just talking about that yesterday. I’m like, I’m going to talk about it. I told him yesterday, I was like, I’m going to talk about it tomorrow on the podcast. And I know that it’s going to happen because I’ve said it out loud, but it’s come back so badly. And by the time I get the word completed and I’m able to move forward. I’ve forgotten what I forgotten entirely. I hate that. I don’t know what we’re talking about here. Could not tell you. I have never seen that man in my life. So, yeah, I don’t have any hot tips for that. What about you? So I have a chronic illness that goes with such bad brain fog that I can actually remember the last time I actually felt fully awake. It was like the 7th grade and I had woken up from a nap and that feeling of feeling, like, completely lucid made me cry. But that was seriously, that was last time. But now that I have that in, like, with mom prank and spirit to take the wheel honestly though, I struggle every day and I’ve honestly learned to live with it. And I think listening to your body’s rhythms and giving yourself grace is key. It is all a part of that. No one is perfect. No one’s a perfect witch. And you forget that herb, you’re human, made a mess, you’re human. Forget the full moon, you’re the worst human. And I’m totally over. But we’re all human. That is why I actually am up for the death penalty. But I just think being kind to yourself, a lot of people, especially witches in general, are hard on themselves and parents are hard on themselves. Just be kind. And for myself, I find, like, having a form of caffeine helps and not giving any medical herbal advice. But for me personally, I found lions, main mushrooms help, and keeping my inflammation down as much as possible helps, and I do that. I’ve eliminated gluten and dairy from my diet and that has helped a lot. But yeah, those are my tips. It’s not perfect. I still struggle, but I’ve learned little maneuvers to make it better. Yeah, I love that. I love too, that we’re both, like, just accepted it is what it is.
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that busy, so just deal with it.
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Goodness. All right. And so the last thing that we were going to talk about, miss Maria, is incorporating your little one in your practice. How do you do that? Do you do that? I think incorporating little is such an amazing way to keep your practice going when you become a parent, especially if they show interest in it. I think showing interest is very for myself, it’s very important. I never want my child to feel like indoctrinated, and it’s something that doesn’t resonate with them. But luckily my Witchling has shown that they do like it. So I think having a child that gets involved helps you and yourself also connect with your inner child, which is important, part of the craft anyway. And Star Hawk said that witchcraft is fun. It offers us a chance to play, to act silly, to let our inner witch come out out of foolishness and play. Creativity is born and children help us take things less seriously and accept the mess that is okay to be messy, believe in magic and accelerate while doing spellwork. I love that. And I think when we fight against that and try to be very like no, do it this way. Not only is it hurting our child whose natural instinct is to play and to have fun, but it’s also hurting our practices as well. But I find that Sabbath equinoxes, solstice, whatever you celebrate are fun way to get children involved. There’s just so many activities for children to do during those. Like we have the spring equinox coming up. Why not tell the littles about the goddess who turned into a rabbit, who laid eggs and paint some eggs, plant a garden together, talk to those plans. And I also think if your little is serious about magic, helping them with daily devotional work is important. And helping them also think about how they can use magic to their benefit. Like, let’s say they want to get a good grade on something. Do a Spilter together, tell them what each herb corresponds to and why. Feed that blossoming with all the wisdom you can. And if you don’t know something, look it up, learn yourself. I also want to share something that the coffee cup which on Instagram does it is just so wholesome. I die in the morning. Her family sits around the table and each of them pulls a tarot card and her little one tells them a story that relates to his card. They call it like Tarot story time and it’s adorable and I’m here for it. But it just all relates to feeding children who have an interest in it and just encourage them and indulge and play with it. I really love that a lot. Well, mine is still very small, just a little worm.
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And for me right now at this stage, incorporating them into my practice is really minimal. It’s very nonexistent in a lot of ways. I’m a very big believer in similar to what you said, not wanting to make them feel like they’re indoctrinated into it. I want them to be raised around different viewpoints and to make their own decision. Their father is Catholic, I am a witch. We have similar views about things, but a lot of our views are incredibly different and I don’t want them to feel as though they have to believe one way or another. I think that a huge part of religion and spirituality has to be a choice that we make for ourselves. Now that being said, I obviously am not going to hide my practice, just like I would not expect their father to hide their religion at all. This is just experiencing different things and making our own choices. So for me right now, a really big part of incorporating them is incorporating them in things like protection, magic. I’ve got maldale hose on their wrist and in the mornings if they’re up with me, they’ll help me light candles and stuff. Like that. They don’t really know what’s going on, but we’re having a good time anyway, things like that. But in terms of anything bigger than that, my child is still too small to even consider that conversation yet. So just really just being involved in protection, magic and that sort of stuff. Blessings here and there. Yeah, I think your tips are very good in terms of incorporating because your child is much larger than mine. Oh, believe me, you’re going to blink your eyes and they’re going to be like the same agent yesterday because he’s a bad person and should belong in federal Congress. He says to me, he goes, you know, we’ve been married for seven years because we just had our anniversary on the 13th. Yeah, we have. That’s crazy. And he goes, think about how fast that’s gone by. And I was like, where are you going with this? And he goes, it’s going to go by that fast for the baby. And I was just like, die. Die in a house fire. Why would you say that to me? Why? We actually do that all the time too. Because my witch link is about to turn 13. And we go, wow, 13 years went by super fast. And I think in another 13 years they’re going to be 26 freaking years old. 26. I cannot like, it stresses me out. It stresses me up. No, it really stresses me out. We’re really bearing off here. But I used to nanny the family I nannyed for when I started working for them. The baby I worked with was three months old pretty much almost exactly, like to the day. And I worked with them all the way until she was four and a half. And we went and saw them a couple of months ago and my baby was three and a half, four months old. And I was like, yeah, I got a picture of her holding the baby. And I’m just like, you two are the same. It’s like the same age, you know what I mean? It’s like you’re holding my baby who is the same age as you were when I met you. And now you are explaining NFT’s to me and how they work and that makes me just so unhappy.
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How time flies and I hate it. So I’m sure I’ll blink and we’ll be doing like, I don’t know, Sabbath together or something like that. Or maybe we’ll be doing tarot breakfast talks as well. Oh, it’s so cute. It’s almost an eight months since they were born. It doesn’t feel like it. No, it does not. I think it’s a mom brain. I really do. I think it’s a mom brain. Exposed time travel. I buys it anyway.
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Maria starring your cauldron right now, let me tell you. I love this segment. Yes. So keeping in the theme of this podcast, apparently I’ve been working a lot with Mother Wart lately, and I’ve been finding it honestly amazing. Motherworth is a plant of the Mint family, so its leaves look a lot like mint, and I think it’s like, fuzzier than mint. But I don’t know. I don’t personally grow up myself. I buy it from other people, but just, like, mugwort is known to be a weed, and an invasive one at that. But it is amazing, magically, and holistically. The Greeks used to give it to pregnant mothers to help them with labor and anxiety, which is why we call it Mother Wart. And I feel that Mother Wart as a herb is like, the Empress and the Queen of pence. In, like, spellwork. It represents a hug loving atmosphere and helps with self belief. And on a holistic note, it helps with things like cramps and muscle tension. And if you have something like endometriosis, they can aid in, like, helping your body chill the fuck out, at least for me personally. And as always, don’t add anything to your diet without talking to your doctor first. Anyways, I’ve been adding it to just about everything, like my teeth and my smoke cleanses and a bunch of different spell jars and, like, candle magic. And I’ve been carrying it around because I’ve been getting in the habit of carrying around herbs that I’m trying to connect with in order to form a better relationship with it. And I don’t know, it’s just been nothing but good things with Motherwork, and it definitely has become a staple in my craft this month. But I love it. Yeah, that’s awesome. I don’t use it at all. I mean, I use it in, like, magic, but I don’t use it for anything medicinal. Yeah, I don’t know what it tastes like. Does it taste good? It tastes like herbs.
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Honestly, for me, it does not have a distinctive taste. Like, even though it’s part of the mint family, I know some people, I think, say that it doesn’t taste mentee to me, it just very herby. Yeah. If anything, like, it doesn’t lean fully on the mugwort side, but it’s like, mugwort. It’s a herbie. Herb. Right? But, yeah, I highly recommend checking it out because it’s a pretty schnazzy herb. Is it schnauzering? So schnazzy.
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So, Robin, what is not stir your culture right now? Thank you so much for asking for me. Right now, what’s not stirring my cauldron is a really big trend that I’ve been noticing, and it’s been happening in a variety of different ways and with a variety of different people. So this isn’t like a single person, like, call out or anything like that. Actually, I couldn’t even tell you specifically who it is I’m talking about. It’s just little shit. I’ve noticed leaders dropping the ball in our community. I’ve seen it’s kind of like a repeat trend recently of people being really fucking mean on the Internet. Like, really mean. Somebody did a whole smear campaign against, like, a nobody creator, another person basically sick of their entire discord off of somebody who didn’t agree with them. People like being harassed by creators because, I don’t know, for clout or conversation, it’s like a lot. Like, I’m sat back and I’m just like, whoa.
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Like I said, I couldn’t even tell you specifically what any one of these instances are unless you really held a gun to my head and I had to sit and think about it. But it has been a growing trend that I’ve noticed, and it’s really been disappointed, especially with that whole, like that whole thing about them banning Instagram, banning witches on Instagram and TikTok and how big name creators are making videos about this thing. It’s going to happen. I think that it’s so irresponsible, but it’s just humans are so freaking messy. We’re all messy 100%. And it’s just like people don’t think things through before doing these things, and then they’re like, Oh, well, shit, now I have to pick up the pieces because I completely or they don’t. And then they dig their hills in, and if you make a mistake, own your messiness. Like, we’re all messy. We’re all messy. And like I don’t know. I’m trying to think of how to word this without being a jerk myself, but there has been just this growing number of people in our position that I think that we’re really blessed to be in, which is getting to share our knowledge in conversation with other people who take that really for granted, and they weaponize it. And I don’t know. I have a really big problem, I guess, with using your followers as weapons. And I don’t just mean weapons, like, sticking them after somebody, but also using them to create content that is targeted about them in a negative light. I have to say it’s probably been a dozen instances since probably December, maybe November, where I’ve been seeing this stuff happen. And I try to stay out of it because, quite frankly, not my circus, not my monkeys. But it has been really unfortunate. And I try to call people out that I know privately when I see this sort of thing happen. Because first of all, I don’t think that somebody needs to be publicly shamed to correct their mistakes. But I do think that we as a community, we deserve better. We’ve got these people that are such pillars in our community that treat people just badly. Just really badly. I know how people find energy to act that way either. If you don’t like another creator, for whatever reason, another author, another podcaster blogger, YouTuber, fucking, whoever, and you are creator, I feel like that can be resolved off of the Internet. And by that I mean pick up the phone and call them. And if you don’t have their number, you probably don’t know them well enough to be making comments on who they are as people. I don’t know, it’s just really been bumming me out. If I’m being really honest with you, it’s been hard to watch. And I actually talked about this in the discord the other day, that there’s so much subtweeting that goes on on Twitter. I don’t know when something is sub tweet all the time. And I found myself in a position where I was accidentally perpetuating a really mean sub tweet thread because the original tweet on its own, I was like, Yeah, all right. I agree with this. That’s true. So I didn’t know what was going on, and I just retweeted it. And then I come to find out several hours later that it’s like a bunch of really unkind snarky shit going on. And I was just like, Whoa. So I deleted my retweet of that original post, but I was just like, Hey, guys, what if instead of sub tweeting, you just say it with your full chest or don’t say it at all? Like that old expression, if you got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I don’t know. I’m not sat here on a high horse pretending like I have not participated in this stuff at some points in my life as well, or even at some points in the last couple of years. I’m definitely not pretending I’m better than that or that I’m perfect at that. But I do feel as though it’s gotten to this point on social media where the it’s becoming a trend. Not just a trend, but it’s like the first reaction is to be, like, hostile and unkind. And it’s like, I don’t know, man. I’ve got a couple of accounts out there that I have blocked that are fucking obsessed with me and will not leave me alone, even though it’s been over a year and I’ve moved on with my life. I’ve got people that I respect and trust, and I’m watching them tear other people down over minor shit, and I’m just like, Yo, when did he get so hostile? Yeah, I mean, I think that people don’t talk to each other anymore, and instead they choose to fight instead choose anger and stuff rather than opening conversation and having an honest conversation with someone, because that’s more scary than actually calling. Like, you’re removing yourself from the situation in order when you post it on the Internet. You’re removing yourself because you’re just shouting out of the web you’re not going to face consequences for what you’re saying. You will, but not in the same level of saying it to someone’s face when you have to discuss it with them, because you would have to learn as well, and people don’t want to learn. That’s a harder route. Yeah, I guess my little closing message on this segment is people on the Internet are still people, so creators are people. Like, I say that as a creator, I make mistakes, you make mistakes, et cetera. It’s not about the fact that we make mistakes. It’s how we handle those mistakes that matters. First of all, second of all, our followers, our subscribers, supporters, listeners, they’re also people. And accidentally or on purpose weaponizing your following to go attack some person that is just like just a person, they’re not even a creator is not cool. Yeah, I don’t know. It’s this real balance that I’m struggling to find myself in, where I’m like, there’s a difference between peers holding peers accountable and leaders weaponizing I don’t know the word here. The smaller accounts, people, regular people against them. Instead of calling people out or even being like, I saw someone doing this the wrong way, instead just do a post or real or take talk about not pointing out who’s doing it wrong, just showing it in a different light how I do it. Yeah, I guess the way I would look at it is instead of, like, belittling, mocking, or using somebody’s experience as, like, a stepping stone for clout, I think instead if you think that there’s something wrong with something you’ve seen, let’s instead completely change the conversation to, hey, I’ve noticed this is a thing that some people do, and I’m going to show you how I do it. And me by example, was showing how you would do the thing instead of just, like, having these weird little rage fueled arguments. It’s just silly to me. And I am personally very tired of weirdo, strange men online, like, being horrible to me when I have no fucking clue who they are and then simultaneously tired of watching. But it’s not just about me. I’m all watching. People I respect disappoint me by you know what I mean? Like weaponizing their platform. It’s just yucky. So anyway, we can move past this, but I am disappointed and bummed out and tired of it. Perfectly reasonable. Thanks. No problem.
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If you’ve just joined us this week, every single week, we talk about creators, photographers, artists, fucking musicians, bloggers, whatever that we’re loving right now. That being said, do not email us and ask to be on here. It’s annoying. Stop. It so rude. Especially when you start off I mean, like, hey, do you and your friend want to do this? What’s her name? What’s my name? What’s this podcast called? Amy. I’m just asking. And then being like, I love your podcast. Do you, Becky? Do you? What’s your favorite segment? You don’t even tell me. What the favorite topic we talked about? What’s your favorite segment anyway?
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Who are you loving this week? It’s not another tarot deck. I’m just kidding. It’s not a tarot deck. No, it’s not, bitch.
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So go on then. Share with us. Definitely not black. It’s a beige. Okay. I think black, I think is it black and gold? And you’re like, no, bitch, it’s black and beige, which is just another variation of fucking gold. It might be a dark green. Okay. And not black.
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Anyways, it’s the La Flora tarot deck, and it is beautiful. All the cards are different types of flowers that represent the cards themselves. Like, the fool is a dandelion, like the little wish ones before they flow away and turn into seats. And then the devil is actually a snake, which is not floral, but will ruin your flowers. But anyways and it’s just a beautiful deck. Very like, the card stock is like miracles. Maria, Maria, Maria, Maria, Maria. Yes. I just looked it up, bitch. This is black and gold.
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We’re going to give people a vote here. Anyway, sorry, continue. Just talking about how much you like it. It’s white and black and black. Full stop. This is like, literally, there is a white version, but this is bay to black. You are crazy. Anyway, so the card stock is like Mary goldsteck. And if you’ve used it, it’s like this buttery, like, beautiful. Oh, so nice. And like that they’re slightly waterproof, which is perfect. But the whole deck has a luxem to it as well. And it’s so stunning and extremely well made. And I like the extra cards that she added to the deck before the fool, there’s Flora, who represents the spirit of the deck, and it’s just oh, no. Chef’s Kiss in the Box gave me the special oil blend that she made, and it smells like fucking roses. And it’s amazing. I don’t know if you remember, but do you remember Emily Less Strange? Do I remember pulling of course I do. Do you remember the perfume they used to sell over? Is that Hot Topic? I don’t, but I know every single person misses that perfume so much. We talked about this privately before. It smells exactly like that, and I’m like, put it on me. Okay, but anyway, who are you loving? I am loving somebody that is called the Queen of Skulls. And she’s got these things called sirens. They’re so cute, right? So she takes taxidermy, like, snakes and stuff like that, and she kind of puts them together and makes these little sirens. I think it’s really pretty because I am very pro taking things that have died naturally and giving them still. Like second life. Yeah, second life. And I think that’s really cool. As long as it’s done ethically, of course. Of course. Yeah. It’s really interesting. And I think they’re so pretty. And I love that she uses these feathers to make these mermaid tails, like, so cool. They’re so beautiful. Even just her snake ones are stunning. Like, ten out of ten beautiful. How did I not know about her? Jeez, even, like, how she takes photos of her artwork is beautiful. Talented people. So beautiful. So freaking talented.
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Thank you guys all so much for listening to this episode. We hope that you will join us on Friday, March 3, for our fourth episode of season three. And we will be having an in between episode next week. So the in between and this focus will be on love stories. Don’t forget to send us your good your bad and your ugly love spell stories. Keep an eye out on our Instagram or on our Twitter. You can follow us on Twitter at coffeeandculdrons or Instagram at coffeeandcultrenspod. Or you can go to our website, coffeeandcultrons.com, where we have all of our social media Linked. Or you can join us on our Discordier, which is First Covenant on Patreon, so we can answer your questions on our part two next time. And in an end, if you are loving copying Cauldrons, please take a moment to review us on Apple podcasts and on Spotify. We definitely appreciate it. Yes, you’ll even get to hear our lovely, sexy, sensual, super hot voices for an additional 30 ish minute episode for being on our Patreon casting tear and up for the Part two episodes. So, again, this is Coffee and Cauldrons with Robin from at, a Tired Witch on Instagram. And I’m Maria from at. Maria, there canon Instagram. You’re right? Yeah. All right.